So you’ve decided, “I need some ideas on getting my ex girlfriend back.”

You probably have a pretty good idea of how she feels about you. If your ex broke up with you, then you know it’s unlikely she is pining for you right now. But you probably have a pretty good sense of whether or not she’s willing to consider getting back together with you.

If you have the feeling that your ex girlfriend is open to the idea, that’s half the battle. It’s much easier to get your ex back with some simple ideas if you know she’s willing to consider getting back together.

It all starts with being the best person you can be. Not just for her, but for you.

Check out these do’s and don’ts:

• Do – Act polite, caring and thoughtful towards her, even if you don’t feel like it and you’re showing them your very best side. It’s good for you to behave this way and it will raise your self-respect. It will also show her the caring person she fell in love with.

• Don’t – Resort to threats, name-calling, yelling or other unpleasant behavior. No matter how much your ex might provoke you to do this, either walk away or be as polite as you can. It’s very easy when you’re upset say and do things you’ll regret later, but avoid it.

• Don’t - Stalk your ex in the hopes of getting her to go back with you. She will run the other way to avoid you.

• Do – Give her space. If a couple of weeks pass and you don’t see or speak to her, then make contact by asking how she’s doing or if you can do anything for her. Be a friend, and that will spark your ex’s interest if there’s any there at all to spark.

• Don’t – Try to be someone you’re not. If she wants someone you simply cannot become, then you shouldn’t be together. You have to be true to yourself first.

• Do – Be true to yourself and be the person that you are when you’re by yourself. Your ex may see that you’re managing without her and that you’re not going to just wallow in grief.

This can help your ex girlfriend respect you more because you’re your own person.

For a great step-by-step plan to win her back for good, Check out this method that has worked for others to get back with their ex here.

So, the first thing to do is figure out what you did wrong. She might have told you in great detail where you went wrong and listed out all of your faults. Or she might not, some girls need you to show you really care what you did wrong. In any case, find out what why she broke up with you and what went wrong. Only then can you work on making the necessary changes.

If you really want to get your ex girlfriend back and she’s not talking to you, these are the four things you need to consider:

1. Be ready to apologize. I don’t mean just saying I’m sorry I’ll do better kind of apology. A well thought out apology where you admit to your faults and what you did wrong – without casting any blame on her. This should be done in a calm manner and humbly so she can tell you are sincere. This can really work wonders, just remember not to talk about what SHE did wrong – that will ruin your whole attempt.

2. Women need and want lots of attention from their men. Sometimes it’s easy to let that slide when you get comfortable in your relationship. Attention is vital to every relationship and yours will wither and die without it. It takes effort, but you need to show her you can give her the attention you need to win her back.

3. I shouldn’t even have to say this one – don’t cheat on your girlfriend. Don’t think it’s ok if she’s cheated on you, it will not help you get her back. It can kill your chances forever. In fact, if you plan on sleeping with other women don’t even try because you don’t deserve to get her back.

4. Prove that you can act differently and care about what is important to her. If you still live with your girlfriend and want to get her back you have an advantage. You can take an active role in the housework and sharing the chores with her. Help out with a good attitude and prove than you can be responsible and that you care about her.

Keep these things in mind when trying to get your ex girfriend back and be willing to work on making changes in yourself. Find out some more great tips that can help you get your girlfriend back by reading our e-letter, “Make Up Magic”- Check it out here!

Are you left feeling like things can’t or shouldn’t really be over between you and your boyfriend

You way want to reconcile and are wondering where you stand with him. Should you contact him or wait and see if he will make the first move? You are probably getting all kinds of conflicting advice from well meaning friends that only make you more confused than ever. It helps to know how guys behave when they are still interested, that’s why I’ve outlined the signs for you to watch for and see if your ex boyfriend still cares.

Signs he has feelings for you:

1. He initiates contact. If he phones you, texts, emails or stops by this definitely shows he still cares. Usually after a break-up most men feel awkward around their ex and try to avoid her. He may use the “let’s stay friends” card as an excuse to contact you.
2. He asks your advice. This may not seem that obvious to you, but he was used to consulting you about things and asking you for your opinion and advice. Now he doesn’t have that close tie with anyone and still feels that desire to communicate with you when he needs help or advice.
3. He brings up the past. When he seems to feel the need to bring up past events and try to explain things it’s an indication that he does have feelings still.
4. He’s keeping tabs on you. He may ask your friends, just happen to show up where you are, or even talk to you himself. It just seems he has to know what’s going on in your life – he is not ready to let go.
5. He wants to know if you are dating. When you can tell that he is anxious about this or seems upset when the answer is yes, then you know that he still loves you. Otherwise he would be glad to know that you are moving on.

Hopefully he is showing some of these signs and answers your question “does my ex boyfriend still have feelings for me” positively. While it is exciting to see your boyfriend exhibiting these signs, you will need to follow the right steps if you want to win him back and be careful not to move too quickly. Find out what steps you can take to get him back and have an even better relationship than before.

Save a Relationship

A couple in trouble: Steve has a demanding job and works long hours, which leaves Sarah feeling like he isn’t there for her. In turn, Sarah spends her days with the kids meeting their needs and Steve feels Sarah doesn’t have much time for him or care about his needs. What needs to be done to salvage this relationship? Should their marriage be saved? Check out these steps on how to save a relationship.

1. Decide if your relationship is worth saving. Both people need to want to make it work. It may take some work to save a marriage, and both partners must want to make it work. You can’t go it alone.
2. Define your reasons for staying in the relationship. Sometimes people stay because of children or because it’s convenient. That isn’t enough. Both of you have to be committed and believe your marriage is worth fighting for.
3. Find out what the problems are so you can work on them. It can be easy to focus on the symptoms and overlook the actual problem. For example, if a partner has an affair, then that may be looked upon as what caused a break up. In actuality, the affair indicates a deeper problem, like a lack of intimacy. Staying together without dealing with the intimacy problem is just asking for more trouble.
4. Once you have determined the real root of your problems then it’s a lot easier to communicate and share your thoughts and feelings. This takes each person opening up and verbalizing their feelings and really listening to their partner as well.
5. You have to be willing to open yourself up. Getting to the root of things may mean having to hear things from your partner than may hurt you. Or vice versa. This is not the time to become defensive, you both need to keep sight of your goal of trying to improve your marriage.Something as simple as holding your spouse’s hand while you are talking can help you stay connected even when things become emotional.
6. Next, is to make a plan of action. Figure out what steps you are going to take. Need more time together? Make Saturday night your date night, for example, and have some fun ideas of what you can do together. Maybe you feel like you are missing out on communicating with each other? Plan 15 minutes before bedtime as your time just to sit and talk with each other. And, stick to it. Get the idea?
7. Lastly, don’t forget that it will be an ongoing process to have a close relationship. Sometimes you will take a step or two back. But if you are working together, you should have more forward steps than backward ones. There will be times when you laugh, and times when you will cry. Be slow to blame your loved one and don’t be afraid to say you’re sorry.

These are key things to remember if you want to know how to save a relationship. Sometimes we all need a little help along the way – and help to get our focus on what brought us together with our partners. It can be easy to lose sight of why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

Rescue your relationship with some simple, easy strategies. Visit  50 Secrets to a Blissful Relationship and get help resolving your relationship conflicts and finding happiness together.

You may really want to get your ex back but find yourself wondering  if they are still interested in you. You need to know what the signs are that your ex wants you back. With all the emotions swirling around after a break-up, you may not know if you are right about their feelings or not. So, check out these signs and see for yourself.

1. She says that she wants to be friends – she wants to leave the door open for possibilities.

2. He calls you, just to say hello – he misses talking with you.

3. He is asking your friends about you – he wants to keep tabs on you and wants to know how you are doing without him.

4. She tells you it’s okay for you to call her – she wants to keep the lines of communication open.

5. You find her watching you – she can’t keep her eyes off you.

6. He acts friendly, even nervous when you run into him – he cares about what you think of him.

7. He gives you compliments – shows interest in your look, clothes, etc.

8. She asks you if you are dating anyone – she is wondering if you are still available.

9. He is not dating anyone – shows he’s not ready to get involved with someone else.

10. She will do things to get you to notice them – looking for your attention.

11. He brags about himself – he is seeing if you are still interested in him.

12. He keeps bumping into you – he can’t seem to stay away from you.

These are some of the telltale signs that your ex is still interested. Before you jump into things, spend some time thinking about what caused the breakup and what changes need to be made. You will want to start things off on the right foot and not make the same mistakes as the first time around. Plus, seeing a positive change in you will really help you to convince your ex to give you a second chance!

Don’t blow your chances to get your ex back if you are seeing these signs from them. Get the information you really need to know how to handle things and where to go from here if  you are serious about getting back together – click here!

When you want to rekindle your relationship, you want to start with your best foot forward. That’s why I’ve tried to show you what 3 mistakes you should avoid.

1 – Not accepting your relationship had problems

It may seem easier just to push things along when you want to get back together. But not coming to grips with the problems that caused your relationship to break up in the first place is a big mistake. You will be doomed to fail again unless you decide to make some changes to correct things.The changes have to begin with you. You can’t make your boyfriend change but showing him that you are willing to do so will work better than any pleas or demands you could make anyway.

2 – Calling up your ex boyfriend too soon

You need to let things cool down on both sides and think things through. Allow yourself to let your emotions calm down so you can figure out what went wrong. Do not call your ex friend until you can show them that you have been making positive changes and that you have a plan to make your relationship succeed.

3 – Pushing to get back together before the timing is right

If you are in too big a hurry to get back with your boyfriend you may be making too many emotional decisions. After a break-up your emotions are at an all time high and people tend to make a lot of rash decisions that they regret later. A month is a minimun amount of time to let things settle down for both of you emotionally. Letting enough time go by can help you decide if your relationship is worth saving and you really want to be back with your ex.

Start slowly – beginning with a friendship and letting things grow from there is a smart thing to do. Letting things develop naturally without any pressure from you may help smooth the way to getting back together after a break up.It may not be as hard as you imagined it to be.

Our “Make Up Magic” newsletter has lots of tips for getting back together with your ex and how to get it to work out the 2nd time around. Check it out here.

Fear of Intimacy

Would you describe your relationship as intimate? You may be thinking of sex, which is definitely an intimate act, but not the definition of intimate.

It’s almost a cliche that men fear intimacy, but it’s not always true and it doesn’t have to be for you. While men may have a bit more trouble with sharing their inner feelings than women, women are not immune to it.

Do you even want intimacy? Some couples are comfortable having a more superficial relationship. They relate on a more surface level and seem to be happy with that. If you are in that place and are thinking something is missing, it’s likely that you are missing a deeper level of connecting.

How to define true intimacy:

• Personal conversations on a regular basis
• Mutual trust
• Ability to rely on each other’s confidentiality
• A deep emotional connection
• Emotional exposure
• Both people open  – become vulnerable

People desire closeness to different degrees. Those who want it and go after it are happier and better adjusted in their marriage and in their work.

How to develop intimacy:

Use our feelings for good – we need to identify our feelings and be able to express them. In addition, if your partner is able to express their feelings to you it’s important not to judge them or criticize them. By accepting them you enter into a deeper understanding of each other.

• Self-awareness – Once you can understand your feelings, thoughts, needs, and behaviors you are much closer to being able to understand those of your partner. Being able to share these with your lover builds closeness. This awareness should help you be in tune with others needs and is the opposite of being self-absorbed. Becoming attuned to ourselves may show us that that there are changes that need to be made, which will help negative behaviors as well.

• Compassion and empathy - Showing empathy means being able to experience “walking in their shoes”, not just being sympathic to them. Your partner will feel like you really understand them and are there for them. You may need to work on learning and practicing true empathy. It calls for you to be genuine, really listen to your partner and not be judgmental. It really can be learned and you will be able to be compassionate when your partner needs it.

You may have to work hard at getting intimate with your partner. It takes practice. A willing heart and attitude goes a long way. If you are craving more closeness and connectedness in your relationship, it is worth working on it.

Maybe you feel like you are the only one trying? That you’re just not getting through to your partner? Follow this link: Fear of Intimacy to learn how to reconnect with your lover no matter how stubborn or distant they are and no matter how hopeless or difficult your situation seems.

You may need to be able to say I’m sorry if you really want to get your ex back. Or are you wondering why you need to say that you are sorry. After all, doesn’t it take two to argue and fight? Unfortunately a pattern of arguments causes a lot of resentment and bitterness. You need to wipe the slate clean if you want to have a prayer of starting over.

It’s not really about who’s right and who’s wrong. If you are fair when you look back you should be able to see some things that you should apologize for. Although saying that you’re sorry sounds easy, a sincere, heartfelt apology takes some thought and effort. After all, you want your ex to know that you mean it, or you might as well not bother.

5 Ways to make it impossible to ignore and hard to resist your apology.

1. Be prepared – don’t rush into your apology. Think things through and have a plan for what you are going to say. Word things in a way that will make your ex realize that you put a lot of thought into your apology.

2. Be sincere – realize in what ways you were wrong and be ready to confess them. You will be surprised at how relieved you will feel and hopefully some of those negative feelings will begin to dissolve.

3. Never say “but” – This word is used when you want to put part of the blame on someone else. Your whole apology will be worthless if you say it and it will undo any good your apology has done up to that point.

4. Do not argue – When your ex doesn’t joyfully accept your apology right away, don’t argue about it. They may need some time to see that you do mean it, after all things got bad enough that they broke up with you!

5. Make positive changes – Follow up your apology with working on changing your negative behaviors. You need to take action to show that your words meant something.

Your goal is to convince your ex that you are on their side, which is the whole meaning of the apology. You should agree with their decision to break up and let them know you are working on things. This can really make a difference to them if they feel like you are listening to them and care about their concerns. So, don’t put it off since making a sincere, thoughtful apology is one of the most important things you can do to get your ex back.

Find out what really works to get your ex back here. These tips have helped lots of couples get back together.

First of all you really shouldn’t believe that old cliche that if you have great sex your partner will be satisfied and not leave. Unless your partner is an adolescent, or just acts like one, sex alone won’t be enough to keep your relationship strong.  A good adult relationship is made up of many components and until you can connect on at least a few different levels, not just sexual, you will struggle and most likely won’t be happy in the relationship.

A word of caution though, no one is perfect and no relationship is perfect. You will have times when you and your partner are not on the same page, and that’s ok.  It’s more about balance, in your relationship as a whole you should be on the same page more often than not.

So before you decide that hotter sex is the key to making your relationship what you really want it to be, consider some of these points:

1. Think about how things were in the beginning. Did you and your spouse or partner have a lot of hobbies that you shared together?  What did you do, besides sex, when you spent time together?  If you don’t do those things together anymore, why not?   If you analyze these changes in your relationship you will be a lot closer to figuring out what you need to work on to make your relationship strong again.

2. Have you asked your partner what they think is going on with your relationship? After all you’re both part of the situation, and the problem.  Why not share with each other what you are feeling, instead of complaining to your girlfriends, or buddies, why not ask your partner?  No one will know what they are thinking better than they do.

Make sure that when you ask your partner what they’re thinking you give them the opportunity to tell you how they feel in a ‘safe’ environment.  What I mean by that is don’t get mad and  yell at them if they say something you don’t want to hear.  If you do then you are sending them a signal that they can’t open up to you or it will get ugly, so they won’t turn to you. That is the beginning of the end for many relationships.

Once they’ve told you how they feel, it’s your turn.  And the same rules apply. You have the right to express your feelings without being persecuted by your partner.

If you and your partner have reached a rough patch in your relationship it can be tempting to think that if you can reignite a fire in bed you’ll be able to save your relationship, unfortunately that’s simply not the case.  Use the advice on sex to repair your relationship tips I’ve given you above to start to rebuild your relationship in a healthy way.

Find out what you can do to make your relationship fresh and breathe new life into it at: repair your relationship.

When there has been cheating in a relationship there are always questions about how to save the relationship or if it’s worth saving.  There are many questions and luckily, just as many answers. Relationships can be saved but, especially when cheating is involved, it takes time. Also, by the time you reach the point that you are ready to save your relationship, you may actually decide that you do not want to save it.

When a relationship ends there is always pain and sadness. When it ends because of cheating, the biggest hurdle to deal with is the mistrust. Once trust has been broken, it is extremely hard to bring back. It may never be fully restored. Although some individuals can put it behind them, others are so impacted by the loss of trust that they can never forgive.

The first step you need to take is to talk it through. This can take days or even months but you need to do what it necessary to save the relationship. It’s important that both of you are completely open and honest about your mistakes and feelings. Discuss what lead up to the affair. Although whoever had the affair may take the brunt of the blame, both partners must be willing to own up to their mistakes.

The person who has been cheated on will want to know why and the cheater must be honest about his/her answer. You may be surprised to learn that most people end up having affairs without actually going out and looking for them. Someone may come along at a time that they are feeling empty in the relationship and this other person fills the need that hadn’t been met for a long time. If the cheating episode in your partnership resembles this “unintentional” affair, you can definitely work on getting your relationship back. If the affair was intentionally sought out, then you probably want to consider moving on.

Communication is important in any relationship, even more so when an affair has taken place. If you can communicate in a rational way without getting too emotional, it is better. This can be very difficult, especially in the beginning. Try not to accuse, threaten, or be aggressive., which can be the natural tendency of the wounded party. If you try to look at your relationship as something that needs fixing, you can work on how to do that.

Getting back to the question of  saving a relationship after cheating, there isn’t an overnight solution but there are steps you can take. And remember, because there is such a lack of trust, especially in the beginning along with other feelings like guilt, betrayal, anger and depression, you need to be very careful in how you communicate with each other. This doesn’t mean that you need to be dishonest in order to be “nice” but that you do need to try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes as well.

I’ve found some great ideas of how to reclaim that closeness with your partner, along with the methods of how to create intimacy and have a blissful relationship – Check it out here: